He was having difficulty concentrating at school, he told me, and his stomach often hurt. When he said his parents fought a lot, I asked him if he talked to them about it. We need to recognize that divorce is stressful for children. For most kids, it has a short-term impact that seems to last for roughly a year or so. In some cases, though, the effects may linger. As adults, the children will continue to have psychological difficulties.
Dealing with Divorce and Separation
Talking to your teen about separation and divorce | Relate
Dealing with your parents getting a divorce is never easy. You will have to confront a lot of new emotions, adjust to many different changes in your life, and maybe deal with conflicts and arguments between your parents. Reaching out for support when you need it and being flexible will help make the transition much easier. It may seem like the end of the world right now, but it will get better!
Effects of Divorce on Teens
If you and your partner are separating, your child might be feeling all kinds of things — just like you. Mixed feelings are normal. He might also be relieved, particularly if there has been a lot of conflict or any family violence. Some teenagers might be more relaxed, happier and healthier after a separation. Or she might not want contact with one of you because she feels angry and blames that parent for the separation.
As Chris Huhne now knows only too well, divorce can hurt teens just as much as children — if not more. Ten years ago, if anyone had told me they were postponing divorce "till the children are older" I'd have thought their words made perfect sense. Back then, my children were one, five, eight and